Jealousy Doesn’t Look Good on Me

For a moment I allowed myself to slip away into a transient state where everyone dreams of being the person they always dreamed of, or perhaps having the things that they always desired.  I allowed myself to become “that girl” that I so loathed and despised since my youth.  I became the girl they call “jealous” and “envious” of what another person possessed.

I sat at the computer, surfing the blogs and websites of young entrepreneurs who had started their own companies and who seemingly had attained success. From starting jewelry lines to speaking companies, everything that I love to do they were doing, and doing it well. Let me make this clear, I was not wishing for them to fail or hoping something negative would happen to these entrepreneurs… I was just simply saddened, out of immaturity, by the fact I wanted to start my own business and couldn’t; I envied them for doing what I only dreamed.

You must understand, ever since I was a child I had the biggest entrepreneurial dreams that far surpassed my tiny little frame. I dreamed of becoming my own boss and until this day that dream has never died. (This year I started my own business, but it’s been years in the making…)

The truth is… it’s been in the making because I had some character issues that needed to be addressed; my business mindset was absolutely horrible. I had the “I’ll step on whoever I have to just to get to the top type attitude”—and God would not allow me to conduct business to His people like that; the doors just were not opening for me.

Right now, business opportunities are coming my way!! I’m so excited about the doors being opened. Like the old saying goes, “Talent will take you to the top, but character will keep you there.” There are huge moral responsibilities when you own a company and are pushed in the public eye. 

A lot of people become envious and jealous over other’s possessions, secretly desiring to be just like them, but do you really know what it took for them to get there?  Were you there when they almost went bankrupt just to see the vision come alive?  Or perhaps the many long, hard sleepless nights they endured?  No, of course you didn’t see that, you only get to see the fruits of their hard labor. 

At the end of the day I realize that jealousy doesn’t look good on me, and neither does it on anyone else.  You have to  love what you got and where you’re at in life. You may not be exactly where you desire, but maybe there’s an absolute reason why you haven’t arrived at your “perfect destination.” (And that may be in the form of relationships, business, career, financial situations, etc.).

Endure patiently, work on character and integrity, learn your lessons, and then move on to greatness.

Let’s grow together 🙂

2C4:7

glakia
 

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Roxanne - February 9, 2010

You are on the right track. You will make a GREAT leader and mentor to many when you lead with a servant heart, as Jesus did. When you do this, you won’t have to lift yourself up but others will naturally lift you up. But, it does take more time to get there but well worth the time. Your post made me think of one of my favorite movies ’13 Going on 30′ – expresses exactly what you are saying. Though, most don’t learn this until they have failed many years living their life wrong with many regrets as they lie on their death bed absent family and friends. When it comes down to it, relationships are what matter most. God bless, Roxanne

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    Lakia - February 9, 2010

    Thank you Roxanne for your kind words! YES… it seems like forever, BUT I know in the end it will be well worth it!!

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Iron Cook Carl - February 10, 2010

I just came here form tom Baker’s blog. He spoke highly of you blog so I thought I’d stop by.

Very mature post. What seems like forever for you may be that it wasn’t God’s time. If you had the business up and running before, it might have failed. Now God is opening doors and you must be mentally and spiritually mature enough to embrace the blessing.

Hope you’ll stop by my blog every now and again.

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    Lakia - February 10, 2010

    Wow, well thank you very much! It actually did seem like forever, but I’m glad that I was able to learn some really great lessons…

    I will definitely stop by your blog! Thanks for visiting…

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blambloozers - February 10, 2010

You make an excellent point…when you said you don’t see people’s struggles only their accomplishments, so it’s easy to be envious. I’ve felt that way sometimes, and I know a lot of people do. It’s a state of mind that makes you feel like what you want to accomplish is beyond your reach. Wiping that out of your mental setting is neccesary in reaching your goals. Glad to hear your seeing sucess with your new state of mind! Good luck! 🙂

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    Lakia - February 10, 2010

    Oh wow, I love how you said that, “my new state of mind.” lol Thanks so much for the well wishes… Trying to reach for the stars! 🙂

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blambloozers - February 10, 2010

You make an excellent point…when you said you don’t see people’s struggles only their accomplishments, so it’s easy to be envious. I’ve felt that way sometimes, and I know a lot of people do. It’s a state of mind that makes you feel like what you want to accomplish is beyond your reach. Wiping that out of your mental setting is neccesary in reaching your goals. Glad to hear your seeing sucess with your new state of mind! Good luck! 🙂

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    Lakia - February 10, 2010

    Oh wow, I love how you said that, “my new state of mind.” lol Thanks so much for the well wishes… Trying to reach for the stars! 🙂

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Shuppa - April 1, 2012

You understand that people have to struggle. Asking,… should people stop to be in competition? Life is passing by, most of the time we fight, we surely should stop this. You should not be angry that somes have it esier than us, still is it meant to be.

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