How to be Pursued

I’m really excited about writing this article because we are quickly approaching the month of February.

While some of us are anxious about the big 1-4, there are still some who venture off into this month feeling depressed and constantly reminded that they don’t have that “special” person.

Last year, I was single and searching for love, while this year I am just simply sharing my world with someone special—and I’m content.

Content?  Yes, content and satisfied…but let me tell you, it wasn’t always like that.  I had to find inner peace because I was CONSTANTLY stressing out and worrying about Prince Charming aka Mr. Right aka Boaz, and when he was going to come.  When I finally realized he wasn’t coming quickly enough, I decided to take things into my own hands…I became the pursuer!

I started searching around every corner looking for him. It got so bad that when I went to church I wouldn’t even enjoy the service because I was too busy searching for the most attractive male in the room. “Maybe he’s my husband…or oh oh oh him over there!”  I would go right down my list—height, check!  Body frame, check!  And so on and so on. 

This nonsense continued on until one day I had an epiphany.  “Why don’t I just relax and allow him to find you. Work on yourself first.”  So I did!  My journal entries slowly but surely shifted from talking about him, to talking about Him. I also began working on myself too.

As time progressed, and I was having a great time being single and enjoying some really great friendships, he came—and I was not ready for him to share my space.  I was too busy in my own little world and having fun, that I almost missed out on the best thing that happened to me. 

I don’t know, I guess you can just call me old-fashioned, but I believe that a woman should be pursued.  She doesn’t have to go running around in pursuit of love and happiness.  Trust me, when the times right he will find her. 

I know this may seem quite absurd nowadays, especially since women have become more independent, but I still believe that a woman should still be pursued, not vice versa.   

When you’re busy and productive, that’s when love will come knocking at your door.  Stay busy working on YOU… This is the BEST way to become pursued.

glakia
 

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Ms. Moe - January 26, 2010

What I like most is the process that you went thru: you were not at your best, you searched for a man to fulfill you, you realized that only God can sustain you, and then you went to work on yourself. The growth process is a beautiful thing! Keep reaching:)

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    Lakia - January 26, 2010

    Yes!! And a process it was… Hard and long, but SO worth it!! Thanks so much for your comment!

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Ms. Moe - January 26, 2010

What I like most is the process that you went thru: you were not at your best, you searched for a man to fulfill you, you realized that only God can sustain you, and then you went to work on yourself. The growth process is a beautiful thing! Keep reaching:)

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    Lakia - January 26, 2010

    Yes!! And a process it was… Hard and long, but SO worth it!! Thanks so much for your comment!

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eternallyhopeful - January 27, 2010

Scripture does say that the man is to pursue…..

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22)

“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” (Proverbs 31:10)

You’re in a good place. That special man will find you! I can so relate to your journey – very much!

Roxanne (aka http://www.eternallyhopeful.wordpress.com)

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eternallyhopeful - January 27, 2010

Scripture does say that the man is to pursue…..

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22)

“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” (Proverbs 31:10)

You’re in a good place. That special man will find you! I can so relate to your journey – very much!

Roxanne (aka http://www.eternallyhopeful.wordpress.com)

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Juggling Motherhood - January 28, 2010

Thanks for stopping by my site, and for your lovely comments. And regarding this post…all I can say is “amen”!

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Juggling Motherhood - January 28, 2010

Thanks for stopping by my site, and for your lovely comments. And regarding this post…all I can say is “amen”!

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La La - January 29, 2010

i just got teary eyed reading this, Lakia!

i don’t think you’re old fashioned, i think you’re a wise woman.

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Michele Arduengo - January 30, 2010

Hi Lakia,

Thanks for visiting my blog. Glad I could make you laugh. Laughter is like internal jogging. It’s good for us and opens us up to life.

Michele

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Michele Arduengo - January 30, 2010

Hi Lakia,

Thanks for visiting my blog. Glad I could make you laugh. Laughter is like internal jogging. It’s good for us and opens us up to life.

Michele

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thelocalguide - January 31, 2010

Wish you the best of luck girl!

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thelocalguide - January 31, 2010

Wish you the best of luck girl!

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vero - February 3, 2010

‘stay busy on you ‘ I like that ..;o)

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vero - February 3, 2010

‘stay busy on you ‘ I like that ..;o)

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The Pursuit of Happiness « Lakia Gordon - February 5, 2010

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Christine Mayo - February 6, 2010

Great writings and so true! ” The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. A-men. ” 2 Thessalonians 3:14 & Philippians 4:23. Evangelist Christine Mayo. http://samaritiandiva.com  www.facebook.com/Samaritiandiva

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Christine Mayo - February 6, 2010

Great writings and so true! ” The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. A-men. ” 2 Thessalonians 3:14 & Philippians 4:23. Evangelist Christine Mayo. http://samaritiandiva.com  www.facebook.com/Samaritiandiva

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The Pursuit of Happiness « Dyaji's Blog - February 9, 2010

[…] I wanted to write this blog, mainly, to give you some insight on how I became content (a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish may not have been gratified) after years of being the pursuer (Read How to be Pursued) […]

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The Pursuit of Happiness « Dyaji's Blog - February 9, 2010

[…] I wanted to write this blog, mainly, to give you some insight on how I became content (a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish may not have been gratified) after years of being the pursuer (Read How to be Pursued) […]

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The Pursuit of Happiness « Dyaji's Blog - February 9, 2010

[…] I wanted to write this blog, mainly, to give you some insight on how I became content (a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish may not have been gratified) after years of being the pursuer (Read How to be Pursued) […]

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The Pursuit of Happiness « Dyaji's Blog - February 9, 2010

[…] I wanted to write this blog, mainly, to give you some insight on how I became content (a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish may not have been gratified) after years of being the pursuer (Read How to be Pursued) […]

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The Pursuit of Happiness « Dyaji's Blog - February 9, 2010

[…] I wanted to write this blog, mainly, to give you some insight on how I became content (a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish may not have been gratified) after years of being the pursuer (Read How to be Pursued) […]

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The Pursuit of Happiness « Dyaji's Blog - February 9, 2010

[…] I wanted to write this blog, mainly, to give you some insight on how I became content (a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish may not have been gratified) after years of being the pursuer (Read How to be Pursued) […]

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The Pursuit of Happiness « Dyaji's Blog - February 9, 2010

[…] I wanted to write this blog, mainly, to give you some insight on how I became content (a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish may not have been gratified) after years of being the pursuer (Read How to be Pursued) […]

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Xuan - March 22, 2010

I like this article and I agree with you, “When you’re busy and productive, that’s when love will come knocking at your door. Stay busy working on YOU… This is the BEST way to become pursued. “

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