How to be Pursued
While some of us are anxious about the big 1-4, there are still some who venture off into this month feeling depressed and constantly reminded that they don’t have that “special” person.
Last year, I was single and searching for love, while this year I am just simply sharing my world with someone special—and I’m content.
Content? Yes, content and satisfied…but let me tell you, it wasn’t always like that. I had to find inner peace because I was CONSTANTLY stressing out and worrying about Prince Charming aka Mr. Right aka Boaz, and when he was going to come. When I finally realized he wasn’t coming quickly enough, I decided to take things into my own hands…I became the pursuer!
I started searching around every corner looking for him. It got so bad that when I went to church I wouldn’t even enjoy the service because I was too busy searching for the most attractive male in the room. “Maybe he’s my husband…or oh oh oh him over there!” I would go right down my list—height, check! Body frame, check! And so on and so on.
This nonsense continued on until one day I had an epiphany. “Why don’t I just relax and allow him to find you. Work on yourself first.” So I did! My journal entries slowly but surely shifted from talking about him, to talking about Him. I also began working on myself too.
As time progressed, and I was having a great time being single and enjoying some really great friendships, he came—and I was not ready for him to share my space. I was too busy in my own little world and having fun, that I almost missed out on the best thing that happened to me.
I don’t know, I guess you can just call me old-fashioned, but I believe that a woman should be pursued. She doesn’t have to go running around in pursuit of love and happiness. Trust me, when the times right he will find her.
I know this may seem quite absurd nowadays, especially since women have become more independent, but I still believe that a woman should still be pursued, not vice versa.
When you’re busy and productive, that’s when love will come knocking at your door. Stay busy working on YOU… This is the BEST way to become pursued.